When a relationship that has children involved breaks down, there are a lot of processes for everyone to go through.  The children are upset because their life has been turned upside down and they must adjust to sudden change.  However the parent is also suffering from extreme loss, disappointment and heartache.  In this they may also feel scared and worried about how they are going to cope in the future, how they are going to manage financially and also how they are going to manage the children’s emotional needs.

The most important person to take care of first is you, the parent.  If you don’t work, nothing does.  You need to deal with your emotions over the breakdown of your relationship first and foremost and as quickly as possible.  This is not easy to do, even without children, but once children are in the picture, you owe it to them, and yourself as a parent, to (more…)